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October 14, 2004
Dating: The Intro.
Dating isn’t a science. If it was I don’t think I would want to know what they would hand out a PhD for. It’s not something that always goes the same way twice and certainly doesn’t follow any logical conclusions.
Perhaps that’s a good thing. Sometimes the strangest things can occur for no reason what so ever with fantastic results. Other times the best laid plans end up making a disaster of Biblical proportions.
I’ve never found that dating someone for the sole purpose of not being alone has ever been successful: at heart it’s dishonest and disrespectful. The same can be said for not asking out someone you really find interesting: if you don’t ask how will you ever know if they were really as clever and witty as you thought they were?
I’m really one for common sense. (If you haven’t figured that out by now consider yourself warned.) You should go out with the sort of people you find attractive and engaging. You should treat them with respect and courtesy and expect the same.
I’ve always believed that dating helps you figure out who you want so that when you find that person they seem to just fit. (Like a comfortable pair of Chuck Taylor All Stars that are all broken in.) When a date is a dud it’s not really anyone’s fault. (Ok. Maybe I’m being nice.) It’s just a mismatch and that isn’t much of a crime.
So what am I going to write about?
I suppose some of my suggestions will come out. Jack’s going to need those later on. Painful experiences will probably also reveal themselves if I can keep them funny enough. (Feel free to prod me via email but let me be the one to post them here in context.) I suppose if he reads this at 10 he’ll skip the mushy parts but hopefully when he’s 16 he’ll actually take notes on the more important things.
As always feedback appreciated.
Regards,
Jim
Posted by Jim at October 14, 2004 10:22 PM